Myths and Truths about Bondage Sex

Imaginе your favorite cake – tasty, moist, chocolatey (or vanilla!). Now imagine eating it three times a day, every day for the rest of your life. Doesn’t sound so appetizing now, does it? The same is true for sex: the key to the good sexual life is variety. Toys and role-playing are excellent ways to introduce variety into your bedroom but they are far from the only ones.

As the old saying goes, pain and pleasure often go hand in hand and yes, we’re talking about bondage. Before you’ve shaken your head, take a moment to consider the idea: BDSM is far more – and far more different – than what movies such as “50 Shades of Grey” have portrayed. In fact, 10% of the US population engaged in some forms of light bondage in 1999, and the numbers have risen significantly since then. Just 6 years later, in 2005, a Durex report showed that almost 40% of adults in the US are experimenting on a regular basis with masks, blindfolds and bondage tools.

To help you understand why this might be so, we must first tackle some of the most common myths about bondage sex. It’s a large misconception that domination is about abuse or being in control; it’s actually quite the opposite – it’s often the submissive partner who is in control of the situation since all they have to do is sit back and relax, until the dominant partner ministers to their needs. In this sense, enjoying a bit of BDSM is not freaky or strange at all – in fact, research suggests that partners who engage in some light bondage tend to, statistically, be more intelligent and successful in their professional lives. In addition, both submissive and dominant partners tend to display higher self-esteem and confidence, compared to people who deny themselves these small pleasures.

Last but not least, the idea that BDSM is primarily about pain is a complete fabrication. As already stated, the line between pain and pleasure can often be thin, and bondage is about discovering the relationship between the two in order to turn your pleasure and excitement into arousal and euphoria. In fact, if you don’t like any pain at all, that’s great because bondage doesn’t have to involve even the mildest degree of discomfort. Use a silk scarf to tie your partner’s wrists to the bed or a pair of fuzzy handcuffs you can get in almost any sex shop. Even the ‘classical’ BDSM toys can have a myriad of uses: many people prefer to stroke the partner with a flogger rather than whip it – it’s all about what you and your significant other enjoy.

The main concerns couple have about bondage sex have to do with the misconceptions about it. Educating yourself about what BDSM is and what it involves is the best way to feel comfortable and allow yourself to experience a different kind of pleasure. Additionally, by introducing some kinky accessories to your bedroom, you can spice things up with your partner and strengthen your relationship, too. Good relationships are built on excellent sexual life and this means variety. However, bear in mind that, even though you might feel comfortable exploring your sexuality in this way, your partner might have their reservations. Approach the topic carefully and be patient – discuss it like any other sexual fantasy and make it clear that if your significant other is not comfortable with the idea, you would not push it further. If both of you are ready to experiment with some light bondage, congratulations! The first form of BDSM most couples experiment with is blindfolding – it’s a great way to enhance your other senses and makes for a truly unforgettable sexual experience. You don’t need any kind of special equipment – as already mentioned, a neck tie, scarf or even a t-shirt will do the job. If you’re ready to take it a notch further or the thought of being tied up excites you, consider restraints: for many people this is the most liberating form of light bondage Some playful spanking can also increase the blood flow to the buttocks or genital region which will enhance your partner’s pleasure and sharpen their sensations. You can even combine it with blindfolding for a truly mind-shattering sexual experience!